Following Up a First Date with Russian Women

Say you’ve just returned from a date with this gorgeous Russian woman. You’re pleased with how things went. You had a good time, and your date appeared to be doing the same. So, what are your options now?

Here are two scenarios: one, you may either savor the joy of the event and relive it in your mind again and again. Alternatively, you may go forward and have a new experience by asking her out on a second date and even more.

The post great-date blues — They’re surely more difficult than the first.

For that first date, all you have to do is summon the guts and confidence to ask, but what about what comes next? There’s the matter of ensuring that she’s still interested in you without appearing desperate enough to turn her off.

Following up a first date can be so difficult. After a successful one, you just cannot be sure how to approach someone. There is never a one-size-fits-all solution.

It’s one of the reasons why ghosting occurs. Some daters simply text after the first date, then nothing. Most individuals don’t know what to do with themselves, so they simply disappear.

However, this does not mean you should give up; while there is no one-size-fits-all solution, there are simple steps you can do to make the prospect of a relationship beyond the first date more than wishful thinking.

What should I consider before following up?

Of course, there’s a 50% possibility she won’t accept your offer. No matter how pleased she appeared to be on your date, there’s still a chance she wasn’t actually content and was only acting because she didn’t want to upset you - Russian women can be excellent actors.

So, to avoid the agony, make sure that she was having a nice time. Try messaging her after the date if you weren’t able to notice this throughout the date.

Take a chance. Be bold.

If you do, one of two things will happen: either she will ghost you, indicating that something went wrong along the line, but you will pick yourself up, brush yourself off, and go on.

Or, she can answer you. Then you can be quite confident she had a good time on the date. There’s also the potential that she’s simply being a kind person. What are the chances? In any case, answering indicates that she is prepared to give you a chance.

The issue of how now arises.

What should I text her?

“Hello, my name is John, and I’d like to wish you a pleasant evening. I hope your experience last night was as enjoyable as mine was. I would be ecstatic if you could give me the opportunity to see you again. I’m looking forward to our next meeting.”

It’s a strange follow-up, especially if you’re already friends. And, if you’re trying to become her lover, you don’t want to come across as overly stiff or formal.

So, after the date, should I just tell her how I really feel?

That’s a terrific idea, but take a moment to breathe and relax first. After a nice date, you’re likely to have a good date high, where all you want to do is praise her for how wonderful the day was, or how lovely she was and how much fun she was to be with. But here’s a piece of advice: don’t text her that way.

If you don’t want to ruin your chances of getting a second date, don’t do it. You can contact her about these, but do it at a slow and relaxed pace so as not to overwhelm her.

Instead, consider this: “Hey, I had a fantastic time. I hope you enjoyed it as well.”

Let her know you had fun

Right after the date – note: which is a few hours later - text her once, and perhaps short, to express your gratitude for her company and that you had a great time. You don’t want to come across as too clingy and excited. You don’t want to look needy on her end.

When should you start chatting?

When you tell her you had a good time with her and she responds, you have the perfect chance to connect with her further.

Make yourself comfortable casually conversing with her. Just avoid talking that makes it appear as though you’ve already declared yourself her lover. You can text your date whenever you want, but not every minute, and chat to her informally.

However, make sure you’ve gotten off the first date horse. You don’t want to bring up your first date again. Get to know her better and allow her to get to know you without the constraints of a first date, such as awkwardness and nervousness.

This way, you won’t appear rushed to obtain a second date, and her interest won’t dwindle because you’re still keeping her company. You may talk about how the relationship should continue if you’re completely comfortable with each other. On a second date, you can ask her.

How should you proceed?

Everything must be well planned. Second dates are equally as crucial as first dates – in fact, they carry ten times the pressure – since they signal that the relationship is progressing and that you’re one step closer to claiming her.

So, don’t miss out on this chance, and blow up the foundation you’ve worked so hard to build. Take time to come up with the perfect date ideas for her.

Never give her the impression that you haven’t put out any effort. There’s a difference between asking her, “What are you up to this Friday? Do you want to go out?” and "What are you up to this Saturday? Do you want to join me at this restaurant?”

Make it known that you’ve planned. No woman wants to believe you’re only interested in her as a pastime. Make it clear to her that you’ve set up time to meet up with her again.

Russians like men who can lead

Russian women are very traditional. They don’t need lavish things. The secret to how to please a Russian woman might just be as simple as taking the lead.

This is where most men make mistakes. After a first date, most of them will feel unsure when to or whether they should follow up. It’s natural to be apprehensive about taking a risk because you can’t be sure if she’ll agree with you.

Nobody likes to be let down and maybe lose their self-esteem as a result. But keep in mind that in order for a relationship to work, you must be willing to take risks and take steps – even leaps – over them.

Trust your gut.

If you feel there is potential for you both to work out, make it happen. If you are ever turned down, the disappointment will be manageable compared to the regret of a missed opportunity to discover love.